This is Your Mind on Vicodin

I wonder. If a gay man wants to make a comment to an unfamiliar woman in a public setting that would be off-putting or inappropriate coming from a heterosexual man, but charming coming from a gay man, will said gay man queen it up in that moment, in order to broadcast to the woman that she can be comfortable with his comment? For women who do not have gay acquaintances, could this lead to a general perception that as a group, gay men are far queenier than may actually be the case?